God woke me up from a sound sleep to remind me of His marvelous and overflowing grace in my life.
Several years ago I worked at a Christian conference center. Part of my job responsibility was to meet with prospective clients, to generate and coordinate new events for the conference center.
During this time, I had the opportunity to get acquainted with Barbara, the beautiful and gracious wife of the conference center’s president. Her smile and contagious love for life made it easy for us to become quick friends. Our friendship led to taking a “work” trip together after Barbara convinced her husband (my boss) that she should be my travel companion, partially for safety reasons. He agreed, after recalling my solo trip to Colorado, where a bear had given me quite a scare!
Our friendship and desire to glean expert advice for developing quality events led us to the beautiful Blue Ridge Mountains in North Carolina. After a few delightful days sightseeing…including the Biltmore, we headed to our destination, The Billy Graham Training Center at The Cove, Ashville, NC. Here we spent hours viewing the beautiful facilities and attending a seminar session on prayer. Drawing so close to God in this setting, Barbara and I also opened our hearts to each other in the quietness of our room. Girls just seem to know how to go deep when all the makeup is washed away and the PJs are on.
Prior to our trip, I learned that Barbara had been dealing with some major health issues. She had undergone two liver transplants two years prior to us meeting.
After exchanging some thoughts from our earlier prayer session, our conversation quickly turned to our love for Jesus and for our families. We discussed the importance of living out our faith passionately and with solid convictions based on God’s Word, so our children would desire this same kind of love for Jesus in their lives. We laughed and cried together the entire week, which ended way too soon.
Shortly after we returned home, Barbara became very ill and soon after went home to be with her LORD and Savior. I was deeply saddened, and at the same time so grateful to have had the opportunity to become friends with a woman who lived out such a vibrant faith, demonstrating genuine love for others and the grace of God.
God is still using our abbreviated friendship to remind me of God’s amazing grace in my life. As I alluded to in the beginning of this testimony, I was awakened abruptly the other morning from a deep sleep. I rarely recall much of my dreams, but this time it was so specific, and I knew it had special meaning for me.
My time spent with Barbara, especially during our trip, was vividly revisited during my dream. Awakening with some urgency, I began to recall more details of our time spent together. Barbara and I were very close in age, in fact, we were born just two days apart. We will both celebrate our birthdays in August. Barbara in Heaven, and me still here on earth. The following is what I believe God wants me to receive from my recent dream.
Life is short during our time on earth. The Bible says, we are like “a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes” (James 4:14). Barbara was 46 when she passed away, leaving behind a loving family, including two children. She shared with me during our PJ hours her desire to see her children grow up, marry, and have their own children, etc., but she knew in her heart this may not happen. I believe that even though Barbara’s desire didn’t come to fruition on earth, my heart tells me that all is well with her soul, and that the vibrant Christ-filled life she lived before her children is continuing to live on through their lives.
As I quickly approach my 62nd birthday, I am once again reminded of the marvelous and overflowing grace God has shown me throughout my life. I praise Him for giving me the breath of life, for physical healing, giving me a loving and faithful husband for over forty four years, three amazing adult children, six grandchildren, a life of much love expressed through friends and family, and the desire to live for Jesus in a chaotic world.
I don’t know how many more years I will live on earth, but whatever remains, my desire is to be daily awakened by God’s grace, and to extend this grace to those around me.
I don’t deserve all that God has done for me, and I don’t understand why some lives are much shorter than others. Like Barbara, my mother passed away before she got to see me grow up, marry, and have children. I didn’t like this, but I have made the choice to accept God’s sovereign will in and for my life. Someday it will all make sense when Jesus comes to take me home. I’ll be so excited to see my mom and Barbara, along with so many other loved ones who placed their trust in Jesus.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16).
Building A Legacy of Faith
- Discuss with your children the reality of life and death. (Do so with age appropriate thoughtfulness.)
Share the birth story of your child. Retell the events surrounding their birth (who was there, what kind of day it was, the feelings of love you experienced while holding them for the first time, etc.). Take this opportunity to reinforce your unconditional love for them.
Read the following Scripture with your child, emphasizing that God created them, loves them unconditionally, and that He has a special plan for their life.
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,[a] God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
they would outnumber the grains of sand—
when I awake, I am still with you” (Psalm 139:13-18).
Our children are a gift from God (Psalm 127:3) and all life is to be cherished and lived for the glory of God.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so that we can do the good things he planned for us long ago” (Ephesians 2:12).
- Teach your children to read the Bible so that they can follow and live God’s plan for their lives.
“Your word is a lamp to my feet, and a light to my path” (Psalm 119:105). “I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:11).
Teaching Children About Heaven: Answering Your Child’s Questions by Randy Alcorn https://www.epm.org/resources/2010/Mar/24/teaching-children-about-heaven-answering-your-chil/